My mom

[darlinkat]

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So simple a title
The 8th anniversary of my moms death was a few days ago
An English rose, transplanted to a Manitoba farm in the dead of winter.
Barely into her teens..alone...she must have cried for a week or two lol
Hard, long days but she loved the dances on Saturday night at the community hall
Her first driving lesson landed her in the ditch...never drove again lol
My mom marched through life, head down, ploughing ahead through all adversities.
She regretted her lack of education and felt ashamed of her spelling and grammar.
Her Christmas card and newsy letter were the first to arrive for friends and family
Treasured more than she ever knew.
She believed and saw the good in everyone and was rarely disappointed. I think
all those she touched in her life strove to measure up to her expectations. Her
expectations were so basic, kindness and loving your fellow man above all else.
Mother Teresas quote " If you judge people, you don't have time to love them."
were her words to live by.
As she walked the streets every day, her cheery hello and a smile greeted all
that she passed. I am sure her greeting put a smile on so many faces over the years.
Maybe her words to some of them were perhaps the only kind words they heard all day.
I often think of the difference she must have made in so many lives.
One of my dear friends here on the site mentioned the poem " The Dash"
You know... the little line between the birth date and death date.
That line is the whole life of that person and what their life was about.
My mom, her fierce strength tempered with gentleness and compassion
Tending her flower garden forever
Thank you for everything you gave me



The Dash Poem
by Linda Ellis

I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning to the end.

He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke of the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own,
The cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard;
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what's true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile,
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

So when your eulogy is being read
With your life's actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?

[mclovin]

So nice Dee,thanks for sharing...the leaf doesn't fall far from the tree.
Mac

[harryb]

Your mother is always with you...

She's the whisper of the leaves
as you walk down the street.

She's the smell of bleach in
your freshly laundered socks.

She's the cool hand on your
brow when you're not well.

Your mother lives inside
your laughter. She's crystallized
in every tear drop...

She's the place you came from,
your first home.. She's the map you
follow with every step that you take.

She's your first love and your first heart
break....and nothing on earth can separate you.

Not time, Not space...
Not even death....
will ever separate you
from your mother....

You carry her inside of you....
Anonymous

[lonster1]

You take care darlinkat.

I have seen your compassion and friendly nature, and I hate to see a person of your caliber hurting.

[hawk2]

Our thoughts and prayers are certainly with you.

[darlinkat]

You take care darlinkat.

I have seen your compassion and friendly nature, and I hate to see a person of your caliber hurting.


Our thoughts and prayers are certainly with you.



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Well time is the great healer isn't it
I can look back now and smile
I had my mom for a long time but it was never enough
Beautiful poem Harry((((((((Hugs)))))))
Lovely sentiment my good buddy Mac :wove:

[dishdude714]

I am sorry to hear about your mother kat. I never met her, but i know she was an extrondinary women

[Night_Predator]

I know your loss Darlinkat, having lost my parents just before Junior High. Its something you carry with you the rest of your life. Talking and writing about them keeps their memory alive and fresh and lets people know who they were. And that’s a good thing.

[justeric1agn]

me too. i lost my mother when i was 18. i'm 49 now. i wish i could tell you it gets better. but it just doesn't. after a while you just get used to it.

[darlinkat]

I know your loss Darlinkat, having lost my parents just before Junior High. Its something you carry with you the rest of your life. Talking and writing about them keeps their memory alive and fresh and lets people know who they were. And that’s a good thing.


me too. i lost my mother when i was 18. i'm 49 now. i wish i could tell you it gets better. but it just doesn't. after a while you just get used to it.

Yes, writing the words did help this morning
And I am not doing the age thing justeric lol... but I still feel like an orphan
It never leaves you

[pandr]

On Joy and Sorrow...

Then a woman said, Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow.
And he answered:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you will find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been you delight.

Kahlil Gibran

[Night_Predator]

Yes, writing the words did help this morning
And I am not doing the age thing justeric lol... but I still feel like an orphan
It never leaves you



You know its funny but I never realized I was and “orphan” until a Marine Corp officer, after looking over my paper work for my security clearance said, “so you’re an orphan”. I actual said no since I had may Aunt and Uncle who were great second parents. Of course he corrected me. So I guess I was lucky. By the way my aunt is still alive at 93.

[icecannons]

Lovely poem I must say. It's always hard on anyone to lose a close loved one.

[cmasjoe]

You made me think of my MOTHER and how much i MISS her. Those who still have their MOTHERS, i hope you realize how lucky you people are.

[harryb]

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[darlinkat]

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If there is happiness in my heart,
it's because you helped put it there.

If there is gentleness in my beliefs,
it's because you showed me how to care.

If there is understanding in my thinking,
it's because you shared your wisdom.

If there is a rainbow over my shoulder,
it's because of your outlook and your vision.

If there is a knowledge that I can reach out -
and I really can make some dreams come true -
it's because learned from the best teacher of all. . .
. . . I learned from you.

A mother's heart is a special place where children always have a home.

author unknown

[elcid1962]

Our thaughts and prayers with you,my friend!Godspeed.Elcid1962

[gusl]

very lovely read

[DualTest]

I lost my Mom in 2004, I feel your pain every day. But she does make me smile when I think about her.

[darlinkat]

I lost my Mom in 2004, I feel your pain every day. But she does make me smile when I think about her.



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So sorry for your loss DualTest
Yes, I understand because I am smiling now too
Thanks ....hugs

[harryb]

When you feel you are alone in the crowd,
When you think no one can understand you,
When your love is rejected by others,
& when you hate your Life,
Just close your eyes, & see, her face who loves you
more than anyone else,
who care for you in loneliness,
& dies when you cry.
She is no one, but your sweet loving mother.
LOVE your mom first and always.




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[darlinkat]

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Lovely Harry, thank you for sharing
That graphic is so pretty
Mothers Day will soon be upon us
Why should we wait for one day to honor our beloved mother

[pandr]

Without You


Mom, without you, there would be no me.
Your love, your attention, your guidance,
have made me who I am.
Without you, I would be lost,
wandering aimlessly,
without direction or purpose.
You showed me the way
to serve, to accomplish, to persevere.
Without you, there would be an empty space
I could never fill, no matter how I tried.
Instead, because of you,
I have joy, contentment, satisfaction and peace.
Thank you, mom.
I have always loved you
and I always will.


By Joanna Fuchs

[Condor]

Very simply put... Without our mothers.. None of us would be here......Think about that one........

[ironworks]

My thoughts and prayers with you Kat..............

I never knew my mom, i lost her to leukimia when i was three.....................

[darlinkat]

My thoughts and prayers with you Kat..............

I never knew my mom, i lost her to leukimia when i was three.....................



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So very sorry for your loss ironworks
I was so very fortunate to have my mom until she was 92
Even then it wasn't enough for me

[ICEMAN]

sorry for your loss darlinkat but i m sure she is looking after you from upstairs and one day we all going to meet our love ones on the other side,,take care darlinkat and god bless you

[hutch]

Mom's rule & so do Dad's.......... Mothers & Fathers are but a shadow of what they could be... I know ... I'm a father

[darlinkat]

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My Mother Kept A Garden


My Mother kept a garden,
a garden of the heart,
She planted all the good things
that gave my life it's start.
She turned me to the sunshine
and encouraged me to dream,
Fostering and nurturing
the seeds of self-esteem...
And when the winds and rain came,
she protected me enough-
But not too much because she knew
I'd need to stand up strong and tough.
Her constant good example
always taught me right from wrong-
Markers for my pathway
that will last a lifetime long.
I am my Mother's garden.
I am her legacy-
And I hope today she feels the love
reflected back from me

Author Unknown

[pcman888]

Very nice post and reading may God bless you and her both, and thanks it helped me from some of the pain of having both of mine gone.

[darlinkat]

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Thank you for your message pacman
I am glad the thread helped you a little
No matter what your age, it hurts being an orphan
God Bless you and take it day by day

To live in hearts we leave behind
Is not to die.

[darlinkat]

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A Heart Just like Mom

I May not pray often, and I may not pray enough
but when I do, this is all I ask of you..

God please give me a heart just like hers
She loves unconditionally, no matter what, no matter who..

God give me courage to be like her
She's very brave, she makes me unafraid..

God give me wisdom just like hers
She knows everything, big and small, she's there to help through it all..

God give me strength just like hers
She's been knocked down, yet she stands strong for another round..

God give me beauty just like hers
When she smiles it gives me that feeling that everything will be okay,
and all my problems disappear for awhile....

God give me generosity just like hers
She helps the helpless, she never thinks of herself and she's so
un-selfish....

God- someday, if I'm at least half the mom she was to me, I'll know that you were listening On the day that I prayed.

[darlinkat]

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This poem is by unknown
I did change some words to make it more my own
It says pretty much all I want to say
We should treasure our mothers each and every day
Don't wait for that one special day that may not come again

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I Still Miss Her

It seems like only yesterday
I sent a Mother’s Day card
I didn’t think it would be the last
I signed it with love and hugs from D

Now that she has gone away,
It doesn’t feel like Mother’s Day.
There are no more chances to send a card,
To ship some flowers, to make a call.
No more visits,
No more fun.
I cannot hug her or kiss her cheek.
I cannot even share a laugh.

It all too quickly became the past.
Each visit was special
And yet I felt there was much more to come
All the pictures have been taken,
All the memories have been made.
All the words have been spoken,
All the letters have been mailed.

The thing I miss the most of all
Has got to be her voice
Whether on the telephone or talking face to face.
If I could have my wish it would be for one more conversation

I know I’ll see her again some day,
We’ll share the sights of heaven.
We’ll talk, we’ll laugh, we’ll hug,
We’ll kiss….it’ll be Mother’s Day once more.
But until then I’ll be a mom for Mother’s Day
instead of Being a daughter.

[darlinkat]

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I am needing to post here today

A sweet ,gentle man has gone from my life ...He was my friend and we loved each other.
He suffered every day of his life and yet he was more concerned for me that
I was doing good and feeling happier.
A new friend that happened in my life when I needed someone so much
He saw me sitting in the coffee shop one day and said please don't look so sad, maybe I can help
That was the beginning of our friendship... friends that needed no words
Silence was always comfortable between us, we would look at one another and thoughts would pass between us
My hand touching his arm or holding his hand.
It was always the same when we met, me kissing him on the cheek and saying...boy do you need a shave lol
We would sit and watch the coming and going of people and I would laugh or cry
Depending on the day...back then I cried more often than laughed it seemed
He always had a tissue for me...he knew it would most likely be needed
Sometimes we would ball the tissue up and throw it at someone waiting to get a coffee
We only did that to the regulars lol..
There are so many words that I will leave unsaid...except

Thank you my friend, I was blessed to have known you
God Bless, may you rest in peace
Your suffering is over...safe in the arms of the Lord

[mj420]

you are making me feel very sad for you tonight Darlin.....hang in there girl.
It sounds like you were very lucky to have met someone so special.

[darlinkat]

you are making me feel very sad for you tonight Darlin.....hang in there girl.
It sounds like you were very lucky to have met someone so special.


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Thank you mj
He would want me to smile when I think of him
That's what I am doing right now

[hutch]

All I can think to say is 'Oh Darlin'(Beatles). I am so sorry for your loss... I had no idea what you were going through... please know that as long as you remember ... They will be with you in your heart.

[chicot60]

Cherish the memories, remember your friend, but look forward to the next day and then the next day and then.....
Honor your friend by sharing happiness, love and all the other good stuff that he gave you.

[darlinkat]

All I can think to say is 'Oh Darlin'(Beatles). I am so sorry for your loss... I had no idea what you were going through... please know that as long as you remember ... They will be with you in your heart.


Cherish the memories, remember your friend, but look forward to the next day and then the next day and then.....
Honor your friend by sharing happiness, love and all the other good stuff that he gave you.


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Thank you my friends for those lovely comments
We have to reach out more to those that may be in need
What if he had not reached out to me that day
He was the strongest, most positive person in the face of adversity that I have ever met
And truly the most stubborn lol
He helped me realize that if I was facing in the right direction
..all I needed to do was keep on walking

[pandr]

When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the "nay" in your own mind, nor do you withold the "ay".
And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart;
For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.
When you part from your friend, grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.

Kahlil Gibran

[harryb]

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[darlinkat]

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Thank you mom for our moments in time
You loved mauve lol...sometimes I wear your fav fleece jacket
It feels like a hug from you [[[[[hugs]]]]]
Such a lovely happy childhood you gave me...it hangs around my neck like a rainbow lol


Your mother is always with you...

She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street

She's the smell of bleach in your freshly laundered socks

She's the cool hand on your brow when you're not well

Your mother lives inside your laughter
She's crystallized in every tear drop...

She's the place you came from, your first home
She's the map you follow with every step that you take.

She's your first love and your first heart break
Nothing on earth can separate you.

Not time, Not space...
Not even death....
Will ever separate you from your mother

You carry her inside of you....

To live in hearts we leave behind
Is not to die.
~Thomas Campbell, Hallowed Ground

[harryb]

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[sgtbenny007]

Darlinkat those words were awesome to read. It would have been my moms birthday last week and reading your post made me feel really good. Thanks for sharing.

[fred0242]

Thanks for sharing Dee, it will be 9 years this Thanksgiving that my wounderful mom passed ..............miss her everyday

[darlinkat]

Darlinkat those words were awesome to read. It would have been my moms birthday last week and reading your post made me feel really good. Thanks for sharing.


Thanks for sharing Dee, it will be 9 years this Thanksgiving that my wounderful mom passed ..............miss her
everyday



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Very sorry for your loss, fred..sgtbenny
I sure wish I had my mom to buy for this Mothers Day
She has been on my mind a lot this week
Everything I do seems to be connected to her
Making a meal in the kitchen, looking out the window at my flowers
I am in so many ways like my mother...how blessed I am

I got all my good qualities from you Mom.
Isn't it lucky you had more than enough for both of us

[The Cobra]

Beautiful, just beautiful Dee.......................Thanx

[harryb]

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